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4 kinds of things co-parents should consistently document    

Even if you and your soon-to-be-ex have an amicable relationship and you’re confident you can make co-parenting work, it’s crucial to keep careful documentation of a number of things. You’ll have your custody and support orders and parenting schedule. However, documenting things relevant to the everyday reality of co-parenting can help prevent conflicts and confusion.

Documentation doesn’t have to be used as a “gotcha.” However, if you and your co-parent have different recollections or understandings about something the two of you agreed to, you’ll have evidence or at least notes to back up your memory. Documentation can also help you better see when there’s a pattern developing that needs to be dealt with. Let’s look at just a few things it’s wise to document.

Schedule changes

If you use a co-parenting app, there’s probably a tool on it to document any trades or other changes you make if something comes up or someone gets sick. Constant changes in the agreed-upon schedule aren’t good for kids. If the parenting schedule you agreed on isn’t working for one or both of you, you may need to change it.

Issues with your child

These can include anything from your child having difficulty in a particular class to sleep issues to food allergies and more. The more you can keep each other up-to-date on anything your child is dealing with, the better you’ll both be at helping them. This can be done through a shared journal that helps minimize direct communication.

Messages

It’s better for a lot of reasons to communicate via text or email rather than via phone or in person, whether it involves your child or not. It’s easy to save these messages. If you do agree to something on the phone or in person, make notes and save them. This is also important if one of you notifies the other of a school or extracurricular event the other should be aware of.

Payments/reimbursements

There will often be cases where you agree to split an expense, but one parent actually pays for something, and the other reimburses them for half. Anything like this that’s outside your child support order should be documented.

Should you ever need to go to court to deal with a custody issue, providing this documentation to your attorney can help them make a stronger case for you.