A divorce ends a romantic relationship, but it can’t cut the tie between a parenting partnership. If you’ve recently gone through a divorce, you might know how hard it can be to get through with cordial feelings toward your ex-spouse.
Still, when it comes to parenting, many studies have shown that children benefit when each parent is involved. Though co-parenting is popular for raising children in split households, parallel parenting may also prove useful.
What is parallel parenting?
Parallel parenting is a method of mutually raising children that limits the contact between the parents. In a parallel parenting strategy, children spend equal time with each parent, but the parents don’t regularly communicate with each other during the other parent’s time.
Details are what make a parallel parenting strategy successful. The key to limited contact is covering all the details when drafting the agreement. This way, there is no need for the parents to contact each other during parenting time.
Who it’s right for
While parallel parenting may prevent shared events like holidays, school parties, or sports events, sometimes two people just can’t be around or communicate with each other. In that case, parallel parenting may be a good way to bridge the gap for a while. Consider parallel parenting when:
- A No-Contact Order Exists: If there’s a no-contact order between parents, this might be a solution that allows each parent to spend time with their child.
- High-Conflict Divorce: If divorce has caused such animosity that two parents can no longer be in the same room, this parenting plan may allow time for each party to cool down.
There are several methods of parenting styles that may help ease tensions during a divorce. If you’re wondering about your options, you may want to learn more about the laws regarding child custody to help you develop the right plan for your situation.